So often we believe in our ability to change, transform and renew who we are; we move on from behavior that doesn’t serve us well into fruitful choices. Yet, we might not be as open or kind enough to accept or see these changes in others. We hold folks hostage to their past and see only what justifies our impression of them. No one holds the patent on being transformed, so make room for others to be different in your eyes, show love in action.
What does it mean to be kind? I am sure by now we have all received kindness in our life in some form or shape, and at some age, whether as children or adults. We know deep down what true kindness feels like, and we too have been kind. So, what stops us and prevents us from being kind with every opportunity that presents itself, why do we withhold kindness when we can give it? Why do we ration it with the people we love, and give it easily to strangers, why is it easier to say kind things to people who will forget us the next minute, and then be as nasty and hateful instead with the ones who are in our life daily?
When we withhold kindness, we are indeed reducing its capacity within us. We think we are exercising control, but in the end, we are giving away the essence of us, one of the beautiful things that still has the capacity to humanize us. Be kind today, let that be the key word for reflection. Think about the times today you could have been kind, said something kind or done something kind. Did you take every opportunity, or did you pace yourself as if your kindness might run out? If life has not given you an opportunity to be kind yet today, make one.
Today, it is all about making a healing connection. Are you trapped in a prison of your own making? In trying to protect yourself from the world’s negative forces, you might end up locking yourself up from life. I know that, I did that for years, then I broke out, and it was a scary but exhilarating feeling, and now all I want to do is touch and FEEL again, because it does feel good. I want to impart and infuse my own contribution of love, back to the world and the universe. There indeed is no greater feeling than realizing that you truly are in control of your destiny and happiness. Sometimes you hurt, sometimes you smile, that is LIFE! HAHAHAHAHAHA, and life is beautiful and good in all its imperfections, hills and valleys, life is good, and it is for the living. So, dare to live, which is the title of one of my favorite songs by Andrea Bocelli, VIVERE!
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Is that you? Am I awake this late for you? Well, then it was all worth it. For one, I will do what my heart says do, I LOVE YOU, reading this right now, and you are more worthy of all the attention and peace of the love of God. Seize your happiness, enough playing safe, dare into the world, LIVE, hahahaha, LIVE, or die numb, ….or do you feel dead inside already? Call me, let me lead you out, let me hold your hand, let me hear how you are doing, reach out to someone, even if not me, reach out to those who love you. Find someone, or call me, use my Coaching services, let me help you ease your suffering.
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What lies within us is far more powerful that the external attraction of what our eyes perceive. Sometimes we are blinded by the glitz, the bling, and glamor of what we think are the fruits of true labor in others, and yes, that well could be the fruits of true labor, and sometimes, the labor is not one you want to be a part of either. You see, judging a process simply by the appearance of fruit can be very detrimental, unless one is privy to the efforts taken to get there. On the other hand, fruits don’t lie, consistent fruit tells a tale of consistent effort.
In the end, we can only be accountable for our own efforts and our own fruit. While it is important to use the steps walked by others as an encouraging beacon to keep on working hard, we can’t become obsessed with their journey to the point of neglecting our own. This unfortunately has given rise to a celebrity and paparazzi-obsessed world nowadays, where we wake up trying to break the news of who wore what and married whom, rather than reaching inside our dreams to break the news of what steps we will take that day to accomplish our own dreams.
Be steadfast to your pace, your goals, your dreams and your visions, which have been custom-made for you. Admire and applaud the achievements of others with genuine admiration and a desire to learn from their positive steps. However, do not get lost in a world outside of your own, that might lead you to feel depressed that you are not progressing, lead to needless jealousy and envy, or self-deprecating utterances unto yourself. Move forward with you plans, believe in your visions and your ability to achieve, then take purposeful steps each day. Positively enrich your life and others. – MAH MEKOLLE
Are you feeling overwhelmed by life and all the roles you have to play? Oh my if you are like most people, you have to play the role of a mother, father, sibling, caretaker, guardian, aunt, Step-parent, colleague, Manager, grandchild, and many many other roles. These obligations can sometimes make you feel like you are going to drown, and then you forget the most important person, your role to yourself.
Your first role is to yourself. Take a moment to realize and know that you are doing your best with the tools that you have on hand right now. Your best might not be solving all your problems and meeting the outcomes you desire, but it is your best effort and there is room for improvement, always. As you watch my video, I want you to imagine you are looking in the mirror, or if you have one available, go and look into it. Who do you see looking back? You. You are your first responsibility. Your duty and role to be at your best, expect your best, and give yourself the best chance comes first. You can not effectively and consistently be so much for other people, forgetting to replenish the giver of time, emotions, finances, and much more, if you do not take time out to take care of you.
Know when you need to step back, whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually or other, in order to recharge, regroup, feed your spirit, your heart and mind. Take that time unapologetically but not recklessly, do it for your sanity, you deserve it, you have earned it if you truly have been trying your best. Remember that we are all on a journey towards the end, do not rush yourself into a mental breakdown just because you got too busy, felt too important in the lives of those you love and take care of, that you didn’t pause to honor your role to yourself. If you breakdown, the people you are doing all this for, will end up lacking what you are killing yourself trying to provide. So, if you want to still be there, doing these things, honor yourself, recharge, be your number one champion.
Let me read and hear from you, practice this and tell me what your experience was. Have you learned to take time out for yourself, is it hard, and what are your obstacles?
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When we grow chronologically, there is no guarantee that we are also increasing mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. It takes intention, choice, and work to increase our level of understanding. The experiences we go through as night turns to day and day to night, provide the substance for the work. As we navigate the substance of life’s experiences, we fall, rise up, learn, strive harder, work harder and the cycle continues year after year until we die.
Learning is not always a given, we must choose to learn or see the lessons in our experiences. When we miss the lesson, life has a funny way of bringing us back to that learning curve until we get it and make better choices. If we are lucky, it rotates back to the same person so we do better, or it presents with someone different and we do better there; it does not matter who, it matters more what we learn from it.
We will always be challenged, we will always fall as long as we live, but our choice to rise when we fall is totally up to us. How we rise after a fall depends on what we lean on or use as a crutch. We can rise up kicking and screaming with rage, denying the truth, insisting on our righteousness, and many other defense mechanisms, or we can rise up in truth, acceptance, and change, knowing we have more lessons ahead to prepare for.
When we find that it is hard to let go then we need to pause, stop thinking about them, the circumstances, the job, the anger, the child, the bereavement, the divorce, – just STOP thinking externally. START looking inside. All those things that happened are done. Now it’s all about our intentional work towards spiritual growth and healing. It takes practice, it’s scary, and hard to face who we are, what we see about ourselves. Just remember, when we do it right, the result is an amazing self-love, self-respect and love for others. When you have learned to do your work, you won’t let anyone take that away from you, you protect your growth and help others respect it, all with love.
Ask yourself today, when it comes down to choosing, what are your choices? Do you choose what is just, or what is easy to swallow, do you choose to uphold truth in yourself and others, or slide it conveniently under a rug. What do you fear?
There’s peace in standing for something knowing you have done your best.
I love new beginnings, they are amazing to the mind and heart. The wonderful thing about new beginnings is you can create your own whenever you like, you don’t have to wait for someone else to start it or give you permission. You don’t have to wait to conform to man-made new starts like new year. You decide when you need to start over, whether it is Monday, Thursday, March or August. So, I challenge you today, are you yet on that path to realizing your utmost purpose on this earth, have you found the key to why you are here, how confident are you, that you are where you need to be, doing what you were called to do and there is nothing more you want?
My Challenge: Today, look in the mirror and ask the image starring back, if the decisions you are currently making, honor the path in that journey to revealing the greatness within you. If something doesn’t seem right, do something about it. Remove the obstacles, be laser focused on creating the best life for yourself. It won’t take a day, but it won’t happen either if you don’t live with intention.
Who knows what the future holds? You, me? nobody knows. You do know one thing though, you know exactly where you are today, where your feet are standing, with whom and with what. You also know where you were yesterday, the past. I suggest, whether the past was sweet or bitter, do not dwell and make yesterday your resting spot. Reflect on today, ask yourself if this is where you want to continue to be, then make choices to maintain it. If today is not a reflection of your desired destination, the more reason to strap on some tools and head for the improvement of your future, whether financially, spiritually, emotionally, socially, politically or in any way that means something to you. Do not just stare and not do anything.