No matter what race or battle you are in, for everyone this is a personal struggle and fight. Some people are in a race, fighting for their life on a sick-bed, they just had a traumatizing diagnosis, they need to win, live. Others are fighting for their loved ones, in prison, custody, race for time to save those in battle. Some races are for the sake of the dignity of a human soul, a race to gain back control of your life, freedom, you want to win at being you, without any restrictions or from some negative people in your life, you are in a race to learn something, learn to forgive, let go, move on, let in, love. Everyone is in a race to win, but each race is very different
The prize is subjective, definitely, what each person is fighting for has a different meaning at the end when they win. No two prizes will feel the same, the accomplishment of each goal means something different for each one of us
The price is similar, yes, no matter what race you are in, it involves energy, movement, action, and also sacrifice. Depending on what you want to win at, it will not happen without some level of action. So, ask yourself. You might want to win win win, but, do you know what race you’re in, do you have the tools for your journey, do you have help, a team effort, what prize are you playing or gunning for, and are you ready to do what it takes, sacrifice, put in effort and energy?
Thank you, I hope you enjoyed this short training on WINNING. If you did, please let me know and also share with you friends and social media, that they too can be blessed. Do not forget to leave your comments and for more questions, email me at pearlsofourlives@gmail.com
Be blessed, lead with you heart, and do your best. Enrich your life and the lives of others
As part of my company’s launch, I will be doing things a little differently from when I was just a blogger. As an official business dedicated to the continuous and consistent training and inspiration of hearts, I will start to teach on some topics that really resonate with me. I see myself first as an educator, as a student and as a conduit for the life lessons I have learned. Again, my joy and my goal, is that for anyone who needs a lifting, a leg up emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, that my blog may be a constant resource to support you in your journey to navigating the life you have chosen, more successfully. I also welcome direct communication and topic requests from you all, in order for me to be more effective in reaching you. There are more than a million topics on Self-development, reaching goals, and more, but if I can speak to your heart directly, then my work will be done.
Here is a short 5 minute video I taped to begin the Series : Journey to Your Core. The topic I will be handling in the next 3 videos coming up this week, is WINNING! Yes. Everyone wants to win, but, win at what? Enjoy the video, and please comment your feedback, your experiences and also you contribution so others reading may add to their learning or as questions. This is not a passive home for positive enrichment, this is for all of us. Enjoy and please share the video with you networks, spread the word, especially if it meant something to you.
“No one wins a race alone, to win you need a team” Mah
In part two of the topic on WINNING, I spend 5 minutes discussing two main things, no matter what race you are in, no one wins a race alone, every winner needs a team! What race are you in, and who is on your team? Are you struggling by yourself, are you in a race that will take years to accomplish, which could have taken just a few months had you found a good team? How about, in the case where you are winning, who are you taking with you on this journey? Are you lending a helping hand to someone else?
Please do not forget to share this video and website with others like you. If you are here reading this, then you are someone who believes in self-improvement, getting the best from life and adding to your already existing knowledge. Now, please do me a huge honor and let your network know about these pearls of wisdom. This is a labor of love, and heart, and you are now part of my team. I can not reach the heights that I need to reach those who need my help with anxiety, grief, spiritual and mental growth, and help with living a more joyful life, if you do not assist me in reaching them.
Thank you for your support so far, it will not be the same without you. He/she who asks not, has not. I am not afraid to ask that you continue to make Pearls of Our Lives your daily stop for positive enrichment. Do not forget to enrich me as well, I am in a school as a student as well as teacher. Please go to my social media and share my page with others, let us spread the word! Thank you and I love you all. Remember to enrich your life and the lives of others, lead with you heart.
Today is a very special day, for many reasons other than that September 2nd is my birthday. Today, I officially launch my company, Pearls of Our Lives LLC! Yes. It has been a long road, one which I will explain as the days go forth, so stay tuned please. Today I celebrate the achievement of just one of my dreams, to own and build a Life Skills and Communication company, dedicated to positively enriching lives through Self-development Coaching.
I started my journey to discover my own self many years ago, and that journey took me to the discovery of my natural gifts and skills. I finally acknowledged my gift for listening, not just with my ears, but with my heart, after enough feedback from friends and family I also realized that I had a natural gift for encouraging, inspiring and basically helping people see the bright side of things, the silver lining, letting them know, that although the storms may come, they never last, but if you hang in there, with me beside you, you will not drown nor burn, I will be there, empowering and equipping you to handle the life you have. So, pearlsofourlives.com blog was born, two years ago.
On my blog, I wrote my heart out, and practiced my other gifts, writing poetry, short stories, Food For Thought and basically exploring various expressions of the same message and theme, you can do it, you have what it takes, in your time of sorrow, here is how to look at life and navigate that point, laugh, smile, live, love, and most of all, create meaning in your life.
I thoroughly enjoyed blogging for these two years, that I knew that I wanted to keep on pushing and reaching more people. I decided to study and sharpen my craft. I already had over a decade working in the healthcare industry from the bottom up, as a Nursing Aide, to now as a Registered Nurse. I worked in the Operating Room, saw people at their most vulnerable points as they went through In Vitro to conceive babies, I worked on critical care units, taking care of patients in a coma, cleaned and bathed them, carried them, fed them, and also, I was there one time too many, when a patient lost their battle with life, and I was honored to be the nurse by their side. I love being a nurse, so enriching, and teaching. In order to enhance my Coaching skills, I enrolled in and got my certification as a Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming, and also now a student of Strategic Intervention Certification program, pioneered by the world-renowed Life Coach, Tony Robbins and Cloe Madannes. Please check out rmtcenter.com for more details.
I am a very spiritual person, my energy and my peace comes from my deep faith as a Christian, and now armed with a combination of my medical skills and Life Coach Certifications, I decided it was time to launch my own company. Today, on my birthday, I celebrate my journey of self-discovery, which led me to grow through the toughest circumstances and the best experiences, I found myself, found my core, discovered my passion and got my mission. I am here, to assist you in doing your own work of self-discovery, that you too many find and live the best life given you, through the discovery of your true self, your skills, and to help you navigate the storms of life, equipping you to handle your life. I am here to positively enrich your life, and the life of others, and I will lead with my heart, my head and my presence if you will honor me to continue to grow with me, and have me as your Coach.
I have so much lined up for the future, and I will reveal them in the coming weeks and months. For today, thank you for sticking with me, don’t go away, you are a part of this journey and I love each and every one of you. Reach out to me, if you need a hand.
In my last post, I talked about the importance of honoring you role to yourself. I said that the most important human being on this earth should be you, not so that you can be selfish, but that your role as your champion should lead you to pursuing the best of life, so that you can be and give your best to those you love and who depend on you.
Today I want to talk about honoring you commitments, not only to yourself but to others. When we accept who we are and what we are here for, it is no secret that we enter into commitments with people, with our jobs, home leases, cars, friendships, marriages, and many other forms of commitments. However, how much practice do we have with keeping our commitments?
Truth is, a lot of us fail at commitments, not because we are bad people or not trustworthy, it is hard to do your best every day and succeed at it every single time. So, we get hard on ourselves, we feel dejected and sometimes we are afraid to try again, to make it right. What we forget is that the people we disappoint, or the people we think will not forgive our wrongs, are just as human as we are. We often let ego get in the way, and we reject ourselves even before we are rejected.
Make your commitments and keep them. Be the best colleague you can be, try to be the best partner, parent, child, friend. Know that dropping the ball is part of life, but know and have the humility to ask for a second chance to make things right. People are not as hard-hearted as we think. We make them that way when we behave in a manner that makes them feel they need to protect themselves from you. Avoid making a habit of breaking your commitments, for sooner than later, you lose the relationships you have worked hard to build, whether in business or personal. Do not however, run away from commitment, how else will you achieve your goals if you do not commit.
This week, practice your commitment to the little things, and then the big things. If things do not go according to plan, regroup, try to make it right, and if it is too late, move on and be better on the next task. Let me hear and read from you, what is your take on honoring you commitments? Have you made a commitment to yourself, that you will pursue a particular dream, goal, purpose, explore your gifts? What is going on with that commitment, what are you doing to honor your commitment to the most important person on this earth, you? Dig in, reach deep and commit to begin the most authentic you, that you can be, then try each day to be the best of that authentic self, see the magic happen. It may not rain money, buy oh it will rain joy, and soon enough, your joy in your purpose and authenticity will lead to the comfortable life you crave, financially, spiritually, emotionally and in relationships. Have an amazing week!
Are you feeling overwhelmed by life and all the roles you have to play? Oh my if you are like most people, you have to play the role of a mother, father, sibling, caretaker, guardian, aunt, Step-parent, colleague, Manager, grandchild, and many many other roles. These obligations can sometimes make you feel like you are going to drown, and then you forget the most important person, your role to yourself.
Your first role is to yourself. Take a moment to realize and know that you are doing your best with the tools that you have on hand right now. Your best might not be solving all your problems and meeting the outcomes you desire, but it is your best effort and there is room for improvement, always. As you watch my video, I want you to imagine you are looking in the mirror, or if you have one available, go and look into it. Who do you see looking back? You. You are your first responsibility. Your duty and role to be at your best, expect your best, and give yourself the best chance comes first. You can not effectively and consistently be so much for other people, forgetting to replenish the giver of time, emotions, finances, and much more, if you do not take time out to take care of you.
Know when you need to step back, whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually or other, in order to recharge, regroup, feed your spirit, your heart and mind. Take that time unapologetically but not recklessly, do it for your sanity, you deserve it, you have earned it if you truly have been trying your best. Remember that we are all on a journey towards the end, do not rush yourself into a mental breakdown just because you got too busy, felt too important in the lives of those you love and take care of, that you didn’t pause to honor your role to yourself. If you breakdown, the people you are doing all this for, will end up lacking what you are killing yourself trying to provide. So, if you want to still be there, doing these things, honor yourself, recharge, be your number one champion.
Let me read and hear from you, practice this and tell me what your experience was. Have you learned to take time out for yourself, is it hard, and what are your obstacles?
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Our thoughts are made up of a lot of things, some of which are intrinsically generated by our desires and deliberate action of thinking in a certain direction. However, these are not the only factors that make up the noise and activity in our head, our mind, and our heart. A huge percentage of our thoughts comes from input we get externally, all our portals and windows into our soul, our mind: the things we see, hear, feel, smell, taste, experience, encounter, and our instinct. We consume an enormous amount of information, data that is random and some, not so random. In essence, the totality of what we think is a salad bowl of more that what we desire to think about, is based largely on input. From that point of view, the true us, is really not reflected in the sampling of our mind. Yet, we are, our thoughts, and I will explain further.
You see, while we may not be the author of every thought in our mind, we have the authority to control how much external data we let in our heads, and how much of that information we allow to dwell and take residence in our head. We have the capacity to program our brains to work for us, to predispose us to a mindset of positive thinking, thus positive outcomes as much as possible, or we can allow the brain to be at the mercy of every passing data and for that data to dwell and morph into whatever interpretation or effect it wants. What we allow to take root in our mind becomes our belief system or has the power to influence what we put out through the same portals: what we say, how we act and react, and the energy we put out. What comes in, goes out.
My short video is intended to be a helpful tool in dealing with one of the ways we can set ourselves up for control of the data that comes in our head and how to react to it. START YOUR DAY RIGHT. A simple step, such as paying attention to your thoughts in the first 20-30 minutes of your day, is powerful in taking ownership of what disposition you want your brain to be in. You can decide for yourself, that although you cannot control the words and actions of others, you will control how your mind receives those experiences, and you will set the tone you want for your day. Enjoy the video, ask me questions and join to further the discussion. Think about these tips as you learn to start your day right:
– Wake up expectant every morning, determined to own your day
– Wake up grateful, there’s always something to be thankful for, like the breath of life
– Dedicate a few minutes of your 24 hours to map out what you desire for your life that day
– You’re your thoughts, for what you think, you speak & create. De-clutter your thoughts, you’re worth more than junk
MAH MEKOLLE
I love new beginnings, they are amazing to the mind and heart. The wonderful thing about new beginnings is you can create your own whenever you like, you don’t have to wait for someone else to start it or give you permission. You don’t have to wait to conform to man-made new starts like new year. You decide when you need to start over, whether it is Monday, Thursday, March or August. So, I challenge you today, are you yet on that path to realizing your utmost purpose on this earth, have you found the key to why you are here, how confident are you, that you are where you need to be, doing what you were called to do and there is nothing more you want?
My Challenge: Today, look in the mirror and ask the image starring back, if the decisions you are currently making, honor the path in that journey to revealing the greatness within you. If something doesn’t seem right, do something about it. Remove the obstacles, be laser focused on creating the best life for yourself. It won’t take a day, but it won’t happen either if you don’t live with intention.
I call them my League of Extraordinary Sisters. They are from Cameroon, in the motherland of Africa. They have qualities that dare you look away. They have INFLUENCE. They reside in different parts of the globe and they are involved in different professions. Their sphere of influence is as different as the strands of hair on their head, and because of that, neither one is greater than the other, for what one lacks in one department, the other has in abundance, and what she lacks, her fellow Cameroonian sister has. Combined, they have POWER of LEADERSHIP!
On the occasion of the celebration of the International Day of the Woman, I have handpicked, carefully assessed, and now I raise my voice and the voices of my other sisters, to say “well done”, to these fine examples of Leadership, grace, talent and bold Cameroonian women of substance.
They are neither up nor down, they look-not sideways but forever upwards, and that is why their star keeps rising. They are talk show hosts, Publishers, Motivational Speakers, Entrepreneurs, Fashion Designers, Educators, Business Moguls, Pastors, Authors, they have been featured in magazines, on runways, LA Times, NPR Radio, and so much more! They are not looking back to see who’s watching, they are inspiring, breaking the mold, and creating new legacies. We can stand to take a moment to say, well done sisters, daughters, mothers, friends, THE ULTIMATE AFRICAN WOMAN. I have the pleasure of knowing them on different personal levels, and it is no surprise that I see the things I do. Be inspired by these Five Women of Substance from Cameroon.
So, whether from a distance or near, they have each influenced something about me, my journey, my dreams, my hustle; they are my mentors from near and far, and as they rise, a new generation of hungry women rises with them. So in no particular order, but simply as my brain will remember, World, I give you, Cameroonian Women I am proud to know on this weekend ushering the celebration of the International Day of the Woman 2015.
PAMELA ASOBO ANCHANG
She is the Founder and Editor of The Immigrant Magazine TV Hollywood, a multi-media corporation that specializes in the development and distribution of media that focuses on the United States growing and ever-changing ethnic population. In her recent interview with the Los Angeles Times, Pamela is quoted saying “My mission is to uplift,”, (LA Times, 10/19/2014), which she does through her interviews and vibrant magazines, hard-hitting interviews on her new Talk Show Frank Talk, which you can catch on her YouTube Channel, as well as many more endeavors.
November 2nd, 2014, she was interviewed on NPR nationally syndicated Radio station where she told Arun Rath “she founded Immigrant Magazine to provide a bridge to those different communities with stories from a wide range of perspectives” (NPR, 2014). Our eyes are watching, we love what we see African Princes. (oh did I mention she is my older sister? Yep, very proud of her)
KING PINYIN
SHE IS A BOSS!!
She needs no introduction, if you don’t know King by now, then allow me to do you the favor and get you from out of the rock. King Pinyin is the vibrant and dynamic CEO and founder of Ignite Your Life LLC Women’s movement. “She is an author, speaker, success coach, direct sales expert, talk show host and woman of profound faith, who has mentored and inspired many to reach their peak in life through her seminars, coaching sessions, leadership workshops, Mastermind Study Groups, Ignite Your Life Women’s Conference, Platinum Talk conference calls and speaking engagements.” (Kingpinyin.com/about-king). She is a member of the Anthony Robbins Platinum Partnership program in 2012, which is limited to a hundred and fifty serious players worldwide. She has been profiled in Success from Home magazine (2008) and Your Business at Home magazine (2007), (2010), (2011) and Women of Wealth Magazine (special edition 2014). King has been a featured guest on Wisdom Keys with Dr. Mike Murdock airing on The Word Network, Dish network and DirecTV. Her accolades cannot be contained in a paragraph, simply put, she is a visionary, a pacesetter, lives life to the full and a child of Christ. I once asked King 2 years ago when I was starting to feel the fire for my dreams, “what makes you succeed?” and among some of the pearls she shared, she said “You have to be hungry!”. Enough said.
DORINE FOBI TAKUSI
GRACE, CLASS, ELEGANCE, SPIRIT-FILLED
“Her name is simply synonymous with everything successful. She is a very successful Pharmacist who has turned her professional career around to be her own Boss, a young Entrepreneur and Owner of two very thriving Pharmacies in the State of Maryland. Dr Dorine Takusi Fobi who is happily married to the dynamic Mr. Emmaunuel Takusi, the man Cameroonians are now watching with hopes to uplift the Cameroonian Film Industry. Together they have 5 beautiful children and are well grounded in the spirit. Dr. Dorine Fobi-Takusi says she owes her success to none other than The Most High God. She is an Ordained Pastor, a woman of great reverence and most of all very humble, with a heart of Gold.” (misscameroonusa.com, April 2nd, 2014)
KIBONEN NFI
“She is a fashion designer from Cameroon, a trendsetter, has appeared and showcased her designs on the runways of Mercedes Benz Fashion week in New York and South Africa. Africa Fashion Week 2012,After realizing the potential that ethical fashion could provide, KibonenǀNY together with some partners formed the Cameroon Fashion Common Initiative Group and instigated the start up of an ethical factory, Made In Camer, which today is an independent, charity based, ec0 and ethical clothing production unit that supports local talent and provides employment to Cameroonians in one of the poorest communities. She has appeared in Forbes Africa Live magazine and I am proud to say I have known her since we were teenagers. I am proud of this young woman and there is no limit to her wings as she flies higher and higher.
ANRETTE NGAFOR AKINYELE
FREEDOM THROUGH FASHION
In her interview with Dunia magazine, Anrette described herself and style with one word which is the name of this Fashion Designer force of nature, LIIBER LONDON, yes, LIBERTY, (Dunia PRINT Magazine Issue 11), freedom! She is another Cameroonian ambassador, paving the way and opening doors for more young dreamers to step in those shoes. She is an entrepreneur, Educator as she helps run the legacy, NACHO comprehensive high school college Founded in 1977, Nacho College is the brainchild of pioneering educationist, Albert Cho Ngafor and Cameroon’s first comprehensive institution. (Facebook, Nacho-College) She is a visionary, a free spirit, down to earth girl next door with impeccable taste and sharp wit. From the time I knew Anrette as a young girl, she always had her trademark smile, and a heart of gold. It is no surprise to see her turn every venture she touches into a colorful piece of art and success. Today we salute this trendsetter
This is a summary of my message this week on Forgiveness which sparked a beautiful trend of conversations with some of you. Thank you for blessing me with your thoughts and visiting my website. Please enjoy the message and may it bring you a renewed desire to forgive. It is all about you, your freedom. Don’t forget to read my other message this week on chasing your dreams. I will see you all next week with fresh Positive Enrichment. Subscribe to my YouTube channel, Pearls of Our Lives, for more of my Positive Enrichment messages
