PAIN AND SUFFERING.
Do we have to suffer for so long, before we know our pain has been honored? What is it about suffering that keeps us in a comfort zone? Is it the fear of moving forward or the anger against the pain?
Are you suffering from pain that won’t go away, are you confused, anxious, having difficulty with forgiveness? Call and schedule a free consultation with me, you don’t have to suffer much longer
Mah
THE JOURNEY
Today is a very special day, for many reasons other than that September 2nd is my birthday. Today, I officially launch my company, Pearls of Our Lives LLC! Yes. It has been a long road, one which I will explain as the days go forth, so stay tuned please. Today I celebrate the achievement of just one of my dreams, to own and build a Life Skills and Communication company, dedicated to positively enriching lives through Self-development Coaching.
I started my journey to discover my own self many years ago, and that journey took me to the discovery of my natural gifts and skills. I finally acknowledged my gift for listening, not just with my ears, but with my heart, after enough feedback from friends and family I also realized that I had a natural gift for encouraging, inspiring and basically helping people see the bright side of things, the silver lining, letting them know, that although the storms may come, they never last, but if you hang in there, with me beside you, you will not drown nor burn, I will be there, empowering and equipping you to handle the life you have. So, pearlsofourlives.com blog was born, two years ago.
On my blog, I wrote my heart out, and practiced my other gifts, writing poetry, short stories, Food For Thought and basically exploring various expressions of the same message and theme, you can do it, you have what it takes, in your time of sorrow, here is how to look at life and navigate that point, laugh, smile, live, love, and most of all, create meaning in your life.
I thoroughly enjoyed blogging for these two years, that I knew that I wanted to keep on pushing and reaching more people. I decided to study and sharpen my craft. I already had over a decade working in the healthcare industry from the bottom up, as a Nursing Aide, to now as a Registered Nurse. I worked in the Operating Room, saw people at their most vulnerable points as they went through In Vitro to conceive babies, I worked on critical care units, taking care of patients in a coma, cleaned and bathed them, carried them, fed them, and also, I was there one time too many, when a patient lost their battle with life, and I was honored to be the nurse by their side. I love being a nurse, so enriching, and teaching. In order to enhance my Coaching skills, I enrolled in and got my certification as a Practitioner of Neurolinguistic Programming, and also now a student of Strategic Intervention Certification program, pioneered by the world-renowed Life Coach, Tony Robbins and Cloe Madannes. Please check out rmtcenter.com for more details.
I am a very spiritual person, my energy and my peace comes from my deep faith as a Christian, and now armed with a combination of my medical skills and Life Coach Certifications, I decided it was time to launch my own company. Today, on my birthday, I celebrate my journey of self-discovery, which led me to grow through the toughest circumstances and the best experiences, I found myself, found my core, discovered my passion and got my mission. I am here, to assist you in doing your own work of self-discovery, that you too many find and live the best life given you, through the discovery of your true self, your skills, and to help you navigate the storms of life, equipping you to handle your life. I am here to positively enrich your life, and the life of others, and I will lead with my heart, my head and my presence if you will honor me to continue to grow with me, and have me as your Coach.
I have so much lined up for the future, and I will reveal them in the coming weeks and months. For today, thank you for sticking with me, don’t go away, you are a part of this journey and I love each and every one of you. Reach out to me, if you need a hand.
Mah Mekolle
Founder, Pearls of Our Lives LLC
In my last post, I talked about the importance of honoring you role to yourself. I said that the most important human being on this earth should be you, not so that you can be selfish, but that your role as your champion should lead you to pursuing the best of life, so that you can be and give your best to those you love and who depend on you.
Today I want to talk about honoring you commitments, not only to yourself but to others. When we accept who we are and what we are here for, it is no secret that we enter into commitments with people, with our jobs, home leases, cars, friendships, marriages, and many other forms of commitments. However, how much practice do we have with keeping our commitments?
Truth is, a lot of us fail at commitments, not because we are bad people or not trustworthy, it is hard to do your best every day and succeed at it every single time. So, we get hard on ourselves, we feel dejected and sometimes we are afraid to try again, to make it right. What we forget is that the people we disappoint, or the people we think will not forgive our wrongs, are just as human as we are. We often let ego get in the way, and we reject ourselves even before we are rejected.
Make your commitments and keep them. Be the best colleague you can be, try to be the best partner, parent, child, friend. Know that dropping the ball is part of life, but know and have the humility to ask for a second chance to make things right. People are not as hard-hearted as we think. We make them that way when we behave in a manner that makes them feel they need to protect themselves from you. Avoid making a habit of breaking your commitments, for sooner than later, you lose the relationships you have worked hard to build, whether in business or personal. Do not however, run away from commitment, how else will you achieve your goals if you do not commit.
This week, practice your commitment to the little things, and then the big things. If things do not go according to plan, regroup, try to make it right, and if it is too late, move on and be better on the next task. Let me hear and read from you, what is your take on honoring you commitments? Have you made a commitment to yourself, that you will pursue a particular dream, goal, purpose, explore your gifts? What is going on with that commitment, what are you doing to honor your commitment to the most important person on this earth, you? Dig in, reach deep and commit to begin the most authentic you, that you can be, then try each day to be the best of that authentic self, see the magic happen. It may not rain money, buy oh it will rain joy, and soon enough, your joy in your purpose and authenticity will lead to the comfortable life you crave, financially, spiritually, emotionally and in relationships. Have an amazing week!
MAH MEKOLLE
Are you feeling overwhelmed by life and all the roles you have to play? Oh my if you are like most people, you have to play the role of a mother, father, sibling, caretaker, guardian, aunt, Step-parent, colleague, Manager, grandchild, and many many other roles. These obligations can sometimes make you feel like you are going to drown, and then you forget the most important person, your role to yourself.
Your first role is to yourself. Take a moment to realize and know that you are doing your best with the tools that you have on hand right now. Your best might not be solving all your problems and meeting the outcomes you desire, but it is your best effort and there is room for improvement, always. As you watch my video, I want you to imagine you are looking in the mirror, or if you have one available, go and look into it. Who do you see looking back? You. You are your first responsibility. Your duty and role to be at your best, expect your best, and give yourself the best chance comes first. You can not effectively and consistently be so much for other people, forgetting to replenish the giver of time, emotions, finances, and much more, if you do not take time out to take care of you.
Know when you need to step back, whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually or other, in order to recharge, regroup, feed your spirit, your heart and mind. Take that time unapologetically but not recklessly, do it for your sanity, you deserve it, you have earned it if you truly have been trying your best. Remember that we are all on a journey towards the end, do not rush yourself into a mental breakdown just because you got too busy, felt too important in the lives of those you love and take care of, that you didn’t pause to honor your role to yourself. If you breakdown, the people you are doing all this for, will end up lacking what you are killing yourself trying to provide. So, if you want to still be there, doing these things, honor yourself, recharge, be your number one champion.
Let me read and hear from you, practice this and tell me what your experience was. Have you learned to take time out for yourself, is it hard, and what are your obstacles?
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Mah Mekolle
When we grow chronologically, there is no guarantee that we are also increasing mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. It takes intention, choice, and work to increase our level of understanding. The experiences we go through as night turns to day and day to night, provide the substance for the work. As we navigate the substance of life’s experiences, we fall, rise up, learn, strive harder, work harder and the cycle continues year after year until we die.
Learning is not always a given, we must choose to learn or see the lessons in our experiences. When we miss the lesson, life has a funny way of bringing us back to that learning curve until we get it and make better choices. If we are lucky, it rotates back to the same person so we do better, or it presents with someone different and we do better there; it does not matter who, it matters more what we learn from it.
We will always be challenged, we will always fall as long as we live, but our choice to rise when we fall is totally up to us. How we rise after a fall depends on what we lean on or use as a crutch. We can rise up kicking and screaming with rage, denying the truth, insisting on our righteousness, and many other defense mechanisms, or we can rise up in truth, acceptance, and change, knowing we have more lessons ahead to prepare for.
When we find that it is hard to let go then we need to pause, stop thinking about them, the circumstances, the job, the anger, the child, the bereavement, the divorce, – just STOP thinking externally. START looking inside. All those things that happened are done. Now it’s all about our intentional work towards spiritual growth and healing. It takes practice, it’s scary, and hard to face who we are, what we see about ourselves. Just remember, when we do it right, the result is an amazing self-love, self-respect and love for others. When you have learned to do your work, you won’t let anyone take that away from you, you protect your growth and help others respect it, all with love.
Ask yourself today, when it comes down to choosing, what are your choices? Do you choose what is just, or what is easy to swallow, do you choose to uphold truth in yourself and others, or slide it conveniently under a rug. What do you fear?
There’s peace in standing for something knowing you have done your best.
MAH MEKOLLE
So what’s the plan for today, the week? Another session of whining and complaining about how early you have to wake up for work, school, and other important duties? Or the headache from the Sunday hangover, or late night sleep?
I say wake up with thankfulness on thy lips, jump up for joy that you took a breath this morning for this is a day ordained specifically to set you up for success. There are tools hiding in plain sight for you to reach out & grab your destiny by the throat. Be not afraid of the tough decisions you have to make to get to your goal. Honor your life with the gift of true living with purpose. Positively enrich your life!
Mah Mekolle
I love new beginnings, they are amazing to the mind and heart. The wonderful thing about new beginnings is you can create your own whenever you like, you don’t have to wait for someone else to start it or give you permission. You don’t have to wait to conform to man-made new starts like new year. You decide when you need to start over, whether it is Monday, Thursday, March or August. So, I challenge you today, are you yet on that path to realizing your utmost purpose on this earth, have you found the key to why you are here, how confident are you, that you are where you need to be, doing what you were called to do and there is nothing more you want?
My Challenge: Today, look in the mirror and ask the image starring back, if the decisions you are currently making, honor the path in that journey to revealing the greatness within you. If something doesn’t seem right, do something about it. Remove the obstacles, be laser focused on creating the best life for yourself. It won’t take a day, but it won’t happen either if you don’t live with intention.
You are the light of the world, so shine bright!
A good heart tries every morning to make the best decisions. Whether it succeeds at the end of the day is a whole other matter. But the strong rise up after an imperfect day & resolve to try again, harder. Don’t worry about those who judge you because of your failures and bad judgement of yesterday, keep your focus on your resolve to always strive higher.
Judgement & condemnation don’t make us, it’s what we respond to that determines how far we go. Keep your chin up always!
Mah Mekolle
It is so easy to fall for the depression and the hopelessness of a situation sometimes.
Fair enough, life has a way of beating us down. I know it, even I struggle with
motivating myself sometimes, I need someone to shake me out of my funk, or,
I need to seek the words of my go-to teachers and gurus, read my favorite
quotes, listen to sermons or music, or talk to people who are actually doing
the things I want to do with the energy I need. What I found, was that, in order
to stay motivated, I had to be in motion. Staying low, only served to depress me
more. Action makes you go faster if need be, but it is hard to suddenly pick up
speed if you were never in motion in the first place
Now, I am not a fan of everything has to be a long, hard tough process. I like
efficiency better, how can I achieve the most efficient result in the shortest
amount of time necessary but in the most effective and durable way.
There are times when based on what the subject matter is, that this is
actually possible. However, there are just some things that can’t be rushed,
some processes take time, effort, evaluation and repeated effort in order to
achieve the desired sustainable effect. Know which one you are dealing with
in your life before you either cut it short or drag it too long
Pearls of Our Lives 