PEARL # 10: RELEASE AND RECEIVE
Have you ever wondered why sometimes the more you hold on to things the less opportunity to see a change in your circumstance. That is because when we hold on to tightly to things that could and should be let go, we occupy the space that could and should be available to receive something new and fresh.
When we hold on to the past too tightly we compromise the promise today and the future may hold. Our minds clearly hold on to experiences that create a great emotional response in us. We remember our happiest moments, most humorous instances, our most painful memories, we remember how we felt even when time may make the details fuzzy, we remember the feeling. If we don’t have a clear direction for our minds, then our memories will run our lives and make us vulnerable to making current decisions based on past memories. We make decisions out of fear, caution, distrust or we throw caution to the wind altogether. It is in letting go the power of these past experiences that we allow ourselves to experience the surprise and joys of our present. Release and receive.
The ability to stick it through, longevity most definitely has its merits when it comes to jobs, especially when you have found your calling, the job suits you and you are making measurable progress. However, when that job becomes a source of stress that starts to affect your quality of life, or you become bored, stagnant, you have progressed as far as you can, are you willing to let it go & make room for more? Sometimes we stay for the familiar rather than attempt the new. Release to receive.
I could write a book on this one. Short of it is, when the purpose for people in your life is over, know it and facilitate the letting-go process. How many of us today are tied to the hip of that toxic friend you have known for decades, and although they bring to value to your current life, and instead make withdrawals from you that deplete you, yet you don’t have the courage to seek a higher friendship experience. You prefer not to “hurt anyone’s feelings”, so you stay in this friendship, gnash your teeth when they call, paste a fake smile when they drop by for a visit, and stifle a yawn when they go on and on about other people’s’ lives and their own, but never ask you how you are doing. The relative with whom you are afraid to redefine the terms of your relationship. The love interest who keeps coming back after departure or other grievances, racking up frequent flier miles on your sheets but never long enough to honor you with a commitment. You’re afraid if you don’t let them in, they may never come back, …you’ve been afraid for 15 years and the miles keep on piling. Release and make room to receive.
Too many examples to talk about Releasing and Receiving, but by now you get the drift. Don’t hold on stingily to stuff, things, people, memories that you end up closing the hands, heart and mind that should be free to receive a fresh supply of life’s gifts