Tag: faith

HONOR YOUR ROLE TO YOURSELF

Are you feeling overwhelmed by life and all the roles you have to play? Oh my if you are like most people, you have to play the role of a mother, father, sibling, caretaker, guardian, aunt, Step-parent, colleague, Manager, grandchild, and many many other roles. These obligations can sometimes make you feel like you are going to drown, and then you forget the most important person, your role to yourself.

Your first role is to yourself. Take a moment to realize and know that you are doing your best with the tools that you have on hand right now. Your best might not be solving all your problems and meeting the outcomes you desire, but it is your best effort and there is room for improvement, always. As you watch my video, I want you to imagine you are looking in the mirror, or if you have one available, go and look into it. Who do you see looking back? You. You are your first responsibility. Your duty and role to be at your best, expect your best, and give yourself the best chance comes first. You can not effectively and consistently be so much for other people, forgetting to replenish the giver of time, emotions, finances, and much more, if you do not take time out to take care of you.

Know when you need to step back, whether mentally, emotionally, spiritually or other, in order to recharge, regroup, feed your spirit, your heart and mind. Take that time unapologetically but not recklessly, do it for your sanity, you deserve it, you have earned it if you truly have been trying your best. Remember that we are all on a journey towards the end, do not rush yourself into a mental breakdown just because you got too busy, felt too important in the lives of those you love and take care of, that you didn’t pause to honor your role to yourself. If you breakdown, the people you are doing all this for, will end up lacking what you are killing yourself trying to provide. So, if you want to still be there, doing these things, honor yourself, recharge, be your number one champion.

Let me read and hear from you, practice this and tell me what your experience was. Have you learned to take time out for yourself, is it hard, and what are your obstacles?

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Mah Mekolle

 

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YOU ARE YOUR THOUGHTS

YOU ARE YOUR THOUGHTS

Our thoughts are made up of a lot of things, some of which are intrinsically generated by our desires and deliberate action of thinking in a certain direction. However, these are not the only factors that make up the noise and activity in our head, our mind, and our heart. A huge percentage of our thoughts comes from input we get externally, all our portals and windows into our soul, our mind: the things we see, hear, feel, smell, taste, experience, encounter, and our instinct. We consume an enormous amount of information, data that is random and some, not so random. In essence, the totality of what we think is a salad bowl of more that what we desire to think about, is based largely on input. From that point of view, the true us, is really not reflected in the sampling of our mind. Yet, we are, our thoughts, and I will explain further.

You see, while we may not be the author of every thought in our mind, we have the authority to control how much external data we let in our heads, and how much of that information we allow to dwell and take residence in our head. We have the capacity to program our brains to work for us, to predispose us to a mindset of positive thinking, thus positive outcomes as much as possible, or we can allow the brain to be at the mercy of every passing data and for that data to dwell and morph into whatever interpretation or effect it wants. What we allow to take root in our mind becomes our belief system or has the power to influence what we put out through the same portals: what we say, how we act and react, and the energy we put out. What comes in, goes out.

My short video is intended to be a helpful tool in dealing with one of the ways we can set ourselves up for control of the data that comes in our head and how to react to it. START YOUR DAY RIGHT. A simple step, such as paying attention to your thoughts in the first 20-30 minutes of your day, is powerful in taking ownership of what disposition you want your brain to be in. You can decide for yourself, that although you cannot control the words and actions of others, you will control how your mind receives those experiences, and you will set the tone you want for your day. Enjoy the video, ask me questions and join to further the discussion. Think about these tips as you learn to start your day right:

– Wake up expectant every morning, determined to own your day

– Wake up grateful, there’s always something to be thankful for, like the breath of life

– Dedicate a few minutes of your 24 hours to map out what you desire for your life that day

– You’re your thoughts, for what you think, you speak & create. De-clutter your thoughts, you’re worth more than junk
MAH MEKOLLE

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PAINFUL GROWTH

When we grow chronologically, there is no guarantee that we are also increasing mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. It takes intention, choice, and work to increase our level of understanding. The experiences we go through as night turns to day and day to night, provide the substance for the work. As we navigate the substance of life’s experiences, we fall, rise up, learn, strive harder, work harder and the cycle continues year after year until we die.

Learning is not always a given, we must choose to learn or see the lessons in our experiences. When we miss the lesson, life has a funny way of bringing us back to that learning curve until we get it and make better choices. If we are lucky, it rotates back to the same person so we do better, or it presents with someone different and we do better there; it does not matter who, it matters more what we learn from it.

We will always be challenged, we will always fall as long as we live, but our choice to rise when we fall is totally up to us. How we rise after a fall depends on what we lean on or use as a crutch. We can rise up kicking and screaming with rage, denying the truth, insisting on our righteousness, and many other defense mechanisms, or we can rise up in truth, acceptance, and change, knowing we have more lessons ahead to prepare for.

When we find that it is hard to let go then we need to pause, stop thinking about them, the circumstances, the job, the anger, the child, the bereavement, the divorce, – just STOP thinking externally. START looking inside. All those things that happened are done. Now it’s all about our intentional work towards spiritual growth and healing. It takes practice, it’s scary, and hard to face who we are, what we see about ourselves. Just remember, when we do it right, the result is an amazing self-love, self-respect and love for others. When you have learned to do your work, you won’t let anyone take that away from you, you protect your growth and help others respect it, all with love.

Ask yourself today, when it comes down to choosing, what are your choices? Do you choose what is just, or what is easy to swallow, do you choose to uphold truth in yourself and others, or slide it conveniently under a rug. What do you fear?

There’s peace in standing for something knowing you have done your best.

MAH MEKOLLE

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THE WARMTH OF A SMILE

Have you thought about what it will mean to someone if you offered them the

gift of your genuine smile? Well, try it. You may even be needing one, and

you wonder, where will you find the heart to muster up a warm smile,

when your heart could possibly be breaking, hurt, sad, disappointed.

Yet, when we dig deep and offer someone else something that

means the world to them, we honor our own self. SMILE! You

just might find, that in meeting their need, you meet yours 🙂

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DO YOU NEED HELP?

How many of us go through life thinking we have to solve all our problems?

How many of us are scared to ask for help, for whatever reasons?

How many of us think asking for help is a sign of weakness?

How many of us don’t want others to say they helped us?

So many reasons why we fail to avoid simple stumbling blocks,

mistakes that delay and derail us. Asking for help is a sign that

you are ready and willing to grow as fast as you can, and that

you are confident and secure enough to not care what others

might think.

You have a lot to gain by seeking those who are

doing something you want to do. Be prepared to return the

favor to those who need you some day, it’s a cycle of kindness

& wealth. Seek help, seek mentors, and if you don’t find one,

at least, you tried. Remember, if you want to fly, don’t

seek advice from one who has never flown before, choose

your mentors wisely, those who can further your goals.

MAH MEKOLLE

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LIVING FREE

Today’s pearl is all about living free. Do you understand what living free is,

what is it to you? It will be unwise to try to define what living free is because

it is rather subjective, what might be considered an expression of freedom

to one person, could be totally different to another. We all live and all

come from different backgrounds, whether cultural, religious or sociopolitical.

So, I will not attempt to impose a definition for a group so broad, I will instead

provoke you to think for yourself, and examine your space, your environment,

both mental and physical. Within those parameters, what is an attainable

freedom available to you? How can you harness it, make use of it,

and hang on to it in order to break free from whatever bondage you

might find yourself in. Could it be, you need to start by breaking free from

YOU. Find out what prison you have unwittingly put yourself into, then start

chipping away at your own barricade, slowly but surely, you will be free!

MAH MEKOLLE

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A MEANINGFUL CONNECTION

Find the time to make a meaningful connection whenever

life gives you the opportunity. There are many gifts the earth

grants us on a daily basis, to open spiritual doors into a more

peaceful existence. Being there for someone, is one of those

gifts we give but in return we are the ones on the receiving end.

Do not deprive yourself the gift, GIVE of yourself today

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INSTANT GRATIFICATION COSTING YOU?

Now, I am not a fan of everything has to be a long, hard tough process. I like

efficiency better, how can I achieve the most efficient result in the shortest

amount of time necessary but in the most effective and durable way.

There are times when based on what the subject matter is, that this is

actually possible. However, there are just some things that can’t be rushed,

some processes take time, effort, evaluation and repeated effort in order to

achieve the desired sustainable effect. Know which one you are dealing with

in your life before you either cut it short or drag it too long

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THE DECISION

Today I am addressing the small steps one can

sometimes fail to make, while looking at the very

big picture. First, DESIRE. Well, that is not such

a hard thing in today’s world. One look at a photo,

a location, we hear an idea, and it is easy to desire

it, the mental image is instantly gratifying. Now,

how do we get from desiring to acquiring? Not

to make it too simplistic, but, a simple thing such

as deciding to get it, makes a difference.

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YOU’VE GOT THE GREEN LIGHT

It is not by accident that you stumbled on my page

though it may seem like you clicked the link out of curiosity.

I am joining the flame of hope and courage to add to your light

and say, we have the green light, the go-ahead, to take life

by the horns this week. If your health permits, and your

circumstances allow it, be a connection for yourself,

and then for others. As you receive, pass it on, and more

will come back to you

MAH MEKOLLE

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