What habits have you cultivated when it comes to your attitude about storms in your life? Are you set immediately in a panic, do you fret and worry, and begin to speak of all the dreadful “what if” possibilities that could arise from the storm, rather than look for the positive angle? Maybe it is time to start growing that inner muscle that says, no matter what, I have what it takes to weather the storms in my life, for they will come, and go, but I will be the factor that decides if I go with the storms or not. Mah Mekolle
Do we have to suffer for so long, before we know our pain has been honored? What is it about suffering that keeps us in a comfort zone? Is it the fear of moving forward or the anger against the pain?
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What lies within us is far more powerful that the external attraction of what our eyes perceive. Sometimes we are blinded by the glitz, the bling, and glamor of what we think are the fruits of true labor in others, and yes, that well could be the fruits of true labor, and sometimes, the labor is not one you want to be a part of either. You see, judging a process simply by the appearance of fruit can be very detrimental, unless one is privy to the efforts taken to get there. On the other hand, fruits don’t lie, consistent fruit tells a tale of consistent effort.
In the end, we can only be accountable for our own efforts and our own fruit. While it is important to use the steps walked by others as an encouraging beacon to keep on working hard, we can’t become obsessed with their journey to the point of neglecting our own. This unfortunately has given rise to a celebrity and paparazzi-obsessed world nowadays, where we wake up trying to break the news of who wore what and married whom, rather than reaching inside our dreams to break the news of what steps we will take that day to accomplish our own dreams.
Be steadfast to your pace, your goals, your dreams and your visions, which have been custom-made for you. Admire and applaud the achievements of others with genuine admiration and a desire to learn from their positive steps. However, do not get lost in a world outside of your own, that might lead you to feel depressed that you are not progressing, lead to needless jealousy and envy, or self-deprecating utterances unto yourself. Move forward with you plans, believe in your visions and your ability to achieve, then take purposeful steps each day. Positively enrich your life and others. – MAH MEKOLLE
In my last post, I talked about the importance of honoring you role to yourself. I said that the most important human being on this earth should be you, not so that you can be selfish, but that your role as your champion should lead you to pursuing the best of life, so that you can be and give your best to those you love and who depend on you.
Today I want to talk about honoring you commitments, not only to yourself but to others. When we accept who we are and what we are here for, it is no secret that we enter into commitments with people, with our jobs, home leases, cars, friendships, marriages, and many other forms of commitments. However, how much practice do we have with keeping our commitments?
Truth is, a lot of us fail at commitments, not because we are bad people or not trustworthy, it is hard to do your best every day and succeed at it every single time. So, we get hard on ourselves, we feel dejected and sometimes we are afraid to try again, to make it right. What we forget is that the people we disappoint, or the people we think will not forgive our wrongs, are just as human as we are. We often let ego get in the way, and we reject ourselves even before we are rejected.
Make your commitments and keep them. Be the best colleague you can be, try to be the best partner, parent, child, friend. Know that dropping the ball is part of life, but know and have the humility to ask for a second chance to make things right. People are not as hard-hearted as we think. We make them that way when we behave in a manner that makes them feel they need to protect themselves from you. Avoid making a habit of breaking your commitments, for sooner than later, you lose the relationships you have worked hard to build, whether in business or personal. Do not however, run away from commitment, how else will you achieve your goals if you do not commit.
This week, practice your commitment to the little things, and then the big things. If things do not go according to plan, regroup, try to make it right, and if it is too late, move on and be better on the next task. Let me hear and read from you, what is your take on honoring you commitments? Have you made a commitment to yourself, that you will pursue a particular dream, goal, purpose, explore your gifts? What is going on with that commitment, what are you doing to honor your commitment to the most important person on this earth, you? Dig in, reach deep and commit to begin the most authentic you, that you can be, then try each day to be the best of that authentic self, see the magic happen. It may not rain money, buy oh it will rain joy, and soon enough, your joy in your purpose and authenticity will lead to the comfortable life you crave, financially, spiritually, emotionally and in relationships. Have an amazing week!
Our thoughts are made up of a lot of things, some of which are intrinsically generated by our desires and deliberate action of thinking in a certain direction. However, these are not the only factors that make up the noise and activity in our head, our mind, and our heart. A huge percentage of our thoughts comes from input we get externally, all our portals and windows into our soul, our mind: the things we see, hear, feel, smell, taste, experience, encounter, and our instinct. We consume an enormous amount of information, data that is random and some, not so random. In essence, the totality of what we think is a salad bowl of more that what we desire to think about, is based largely on input. From that point of view, the true us, is really not reflected in the sampling of our mind. Yet, we are, our thoughts, and I will explain further.
You see, while we may not be the author of every thought in our mind, we have the authority to control how much external data we let in our heads, and how much of that information we allow to dwell and take residence in our head. We have the capacity to program our brains to work for us, to predispose us to a mindset of positive thinking, thus positive outcomes as much as possible, or we can allow the brain to be at the mercy of every passing data and for that data to dwell and morph into whatever interpretation or effect it wants. What we allow to take root in our mind becomes our belief system or has the power to influence what we put out through the same portals: what we say, how we act and react, and the energy we put out. What comes in, goes out.
My short video is intended to be a helpful tool in dealing with one of the ways we can set ourselves up for control of the data that comes in our head and how to react to it. START YOUR DAY RIGHT. A simple step, such as paying attention to your thoughts in the first 20-30 minutes of your day, is powerful in taking ownership of what disposition you want your brain to be in. You can decide for yourself, that although you cannot control the words and actions of others, you will control how your mind receives those experiences, and you will set the tone you want for your day. Enjoy the video, ask me questions and join to further the discussion. Think about these tips as you learn to start your day right:
– Wake up expectant every morning, determined to own your day
– Wake up grateful, there’s always something to be thankful for, like the breath of life
– Dedicate a few minutes of your 24 hours to map out what you desire for your life that day
– You’re your thoughts, for what you think, you speak & create. De-clutter your thoughts, you’re worth more than junk
MAH MEKOLLE
When we grow chronologically, there is no guarantee that we are also increasing mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. It takes intention, choice, and work to increase our level of understanding. The experiences we go through as night turns to day and day to night, provide the substance for the work. As we navigate the substance of life’s experiences, we fall, rise up, learn, strive harder, work harder and the cycle continues year after year until we die.
Learning is not always a given, we must choose to learn or see the lessons in our experiences. When we miss the lesson, life has a funny way of bringing us back to that learning curve until we get it and make better choices. If we are lucky, it rotates back to the same person so we do better, or it presents with someone different and we do better there; it does not matter who, it matters more what we learn from it.
We will always be challenged, we will always fall as long as we live, but our choice to rise when we fall is totally up to us. How we rise after a fall depends on what we lean on or use as a crutch. We can rise up kicking and screaming with rage, denying the truth, insisting on our righteousness, and many other defense mechanisms, or we can rise up in truth, acceptance, and change, knowing we have more lessons ahead to prepare for.
When we find that it is hard to let go then we need to pause, stop thinking about them, the circumstances, the job, the anger, the child, the bereavement, the divorce, – just STOP thinking externally. START looking inside. All those things that happened are done. Now it’s all about our intentional work towards spiritual growth and healing. It takes practice, it’s scary, and hard to face who we are, what we see about ourselves. Just remember, when we do it right, the result is an amazing self-love, self-respect and love for others. When you have learned to do your work, you won’t let anyone take that away from you, you protect your growth and help others respect it, all with love.
Ask yourself today, when it comes down to choosing, what are your choices? Do you choose what is just, or what is easy to swallow, do you choose to uphold truth in yourself and others, or slide it conveniently under a rug. What do you fear?
There’s peace in standing for something knowing you have done your best.
I love new beginnings, they are amazing to the mind and heart. The wonderful thing about new beginnings is you can create your own whenever you like, you don’t have to wait for someone else to start it or give you permission. You don’t have to wait to conform to man-made new starts like new year. You decide when you need to start over, whether it is Monday, Thursday, March or August. So, I challenge you today, are you yet on that path to realizing your utmost purpose on this earth, have you found the key to why you are here, how confident are you, that you are where you need to be, doing what you were called to do and there is nothing more you want?
My Challenge: Today, look in the mirror and ask the image starring back, if the decisions you are currently making, honor the path in that journey to revealing the greatness within you. If something doesn’t seem right, do something about it. Remove the obstacles, be laser focused on creating the best life for yourself. It won’t take a day, but it won’t happen either if you don’t live with intention.
Pearls of Our Lives 